Understanding the male species.......

Every girl had that dream of finding that romeo, that knight in shining armour coming in a white horse and rescueing her from the bad guy. The tricky part is that in fairy tales, there is a very clear cut physical distinction between the handsome prince and the bad guy. While the prince looked cute and charming with a sword and his white horse, the villain or the bad guy had a very long face and evil looks and you can easily spot them. But then you grow up and you realise this is not really the case, because the bad guy is not so easy to spot anymore because in real life he looks cute and charming, he makes you laugh and he got the most beautiful eyes. Unlike fairy tales, the bad guy doesn’t hold you hostage in some tower in the forest. Instead he buys you flowers and chocolates. He holds you and tells you he’d love you forever, but break your heart in the end. But that’s not my point, and this post is not about how painful it is when a boy hurts a girl, no.

After years of being in the dating world observing and trying to understand the male counterparts, I finally knew that the perfect guy do not exist. This jarring realisation is not instigated by any recent events, but just an outcome of a long period of meticulous observation and indepth research on the so-called mysterious (as they like to think so themselves) male species.

 First of all, the qualities I like most about men is their simplistic nature. It’s funny how they can manage all their stuffs in a small handbag when I needed two big size luggages.

Just so you girls might wanna know, these simplistic beings come in different packages. I thought it might be easier to track whether the guy is really the charming prince or the villain in disguise if you take note of these points, because that would be like settling for Jacob when you actually want Edward Cullen.

Now, these are the basic four categories of men:

The Sport : These are easy to spot. They usually wear a jersey of their favourite team, habitually found parked on a sofa with few bottles of beer and always engrossed in one sport game or the other. He might often lie to you saying he’s going to work, when he’s actually going to a sports bar. He actually have a very good heart, but try to engage him into a conversation during his favourite game. You’ll fail miserably.

The Couch Potato : Curling up all day long on the sofa, with remote in hand, beer and surfing channels. You'll have a hard time getting him out of the couch. Don't even think about getting him to help in household chores. He could be sweet. But you don’t want a lazy boyfriend.

The Scientist : You all know this guy. The boring, studious, job and career oriented nerds and geeks! These men love their jobs more than their wives.

The Show off : Constantly finds ways to demonstrate his physical prowess. They accomplish this by twisting open food jar lids, showing off abs and muscles, arm wrestling with friends, bragging about his latest iphone, his pretty girlfriend  and so on. Showoffs need constant praise and reassurance. An association with this category also requires patience.

So, like I said, where is the perfect guy? :-)

But girls! Although you might not find that perfect guy, if he’s got a good heart and he makes you really really happy, though he might not be perfect,  he could be perfect for you. After all, your happiness is all that matters.

Note:  Any resemblance to persons living or dead is purely coincidental :-)

Food for thought....

There is a story behind every person, on why they are the way they are. Think before you made snide remarks about others, because words can be painful and can destroy relationships and leave a scar. Matthew 7:1-6  clearly states, “Do not judge, or you will be judged. For in the same way you judge others you will be judged and with the measure you use it will be measured to you”.

So,the next time you're about to boil over and insensibly bargain a rickshaw puller for charging you a little extra, think about how the poor guy must’ve had a really rough year, supporting his five children with a meagre 400 rupees a day. Think about how he must have had a terrible day, working under the scorching sun despite being sick and that he must be needing the money so much more than you do.

Before you call that pregnant lady who works  at the bank rude and pretentious, does it ever occur to you that she might just be having a bad day, perhaps financial problems, some issues with her family, a drunken husband maybe or whatever reason that cease her to smile. It was just your luck that you caught her at that time she was in a crappy mood. She might not always be like that.

Before you chew on a juicy story about how your colleague really got fired, how that girl in your class do not wear good clothes or where someone’s boyfriend was seen after the party, before you speak, ask yourself… is it kind, is it really necessary, is it helpful or will I hurt someone ?

*Some very common wrong judgments people make :*

People make snap judgements that all night owls are lazy, pretentious and unproductive. This is not true because being a night person myself, many of my best writings are done at 2 in the morning and a recent study says that 70 percent of the scientists in America are night owls :-)

It is wrong to say that only 12 year olds listen to Taylor Swift and how people listening to her  have really no taste in music.  How does a person’s taste in music makes him any more  intelligent or define who he or she is ? :-)